Last fall Jane Gross, journalist and author of A Bittersweet Season, spoke about her experiences supporting and caring for her elderly mother. The presentation at Brethren Village, a retirement community in Lancaster, PA, shares observations, experiences, things she wishes she had done, and much more.
Take a few minutes to read How I REALLY Feel About Getting Older, a Huffington Post article by Jane Gross, that reflects and reviews many of the most concrete problems that occur when people age.
Gross describes the frustration of living in a society that trivializes older adults while it also turns away from the wisdom of elders. At the same time, she observes, the media bombards older adults with messages urging people to overcome aging problems simply by purchasing one product or another. And then there are the media messages that reinforce the aging stereotypes held by those who have not yet started to worry about growing older…
For years now The New Old Age blog at The New York Times has been a must-read for people with aging parents as well as for people who blog about aging and caregiving issues. Started in 2008 by Jane Gross and later presided over by Paula Span, The New Old Age always had its finger on the latest aging research, the best ways for people to approach growing older, and of course, caregiving for aging parents.
Now the blog is closing up shop, though the years and years of amazing blog posts will continue to be available to readers. Paula Span will write new columns two times a month for another part of the Times, but these will not be added to the blog.
When I joined AARP last year, it was after years of watching my parents and my husband’s parents talk about articles, magazines, and discounts. Sure enough, after paying that $12 membership fee, my husband purchased new glasses and they took $27 off when we flashed the AARP card. Since then I’ve used it for quite a few other purchases. I enjoy the AARP blogs and the website, and their aging research is often compelling, not to mention well done.
But to tell the truth, I am getting a bit tired of hearing from AARP. Between the e-mails (national and state — something comes almost every day), the solicitations (insurance or all types and renewal request months too early), the publications (at least once a week), and all the other advertising for products (a couple of times a week), it’s just too much.
From a posting on Facebook by A Bittersweet Season author, Jane Gross. A bit scary, I think.
Some 29 states currently have laws making adult children responsible for their parents if their parents can’t afford to take care of themselves. These “filial responsibility” laws have rarely been enforced, but six years ago when federal rules made it more difficult to qualify for Medicaid long-term care coverage, some elder law attorneys predicted that nursing homes would start using the laws as a way to get care paid for.
On her Facebook page A Bittersweet Season author, Jane Gross, mentioned that one of her book interviews with On Being radio host, Krista Tippett, will re-air today (Thursday, July 26, 2012). Gross wrote her book after her journey in the elder parent caregiving world, and she shares a broad range of insights, ideas, and thoughts.
I listened to this program when it was originally broadcast, and it’s worth hearing the program again — my NPR station has it on right now.
On Facebook Gross, who started the New Old Age blog, wrote:
”On Being,” a popular NPR radio program hosted by Krista Tippett about the big questions at the center of human life, will re-air today their interview with me about A BITTERSWEET SEASON. It’s probably my favorite interview of all the ones I did over the past year about the book.
All of Tippett’s On Being radio programs are archived and available for listeners. Schedule issues keep me from hearing every program broadcast on my local NPR station, so I often listen to past shows when I am driving.