Communication: We are Always Children in Our Parents’ Eyes

“We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves.”
Henry Ward Beecher

Last night on the phone my mom directed me to take care of myself and rest up. She knows the past three years have been well-filled, and often tiring, as my husband and I assisted his mother with post-stroke support. Mom worries that I am not getting enough sleep and that I do too much. Also she knows that eventually we will be close-by helping her in the same way, and she also worries that I’ll work too hard at that.

After she made these comments my mom laughed saying, “Gee, I sound like my mother.” I laughed, too, because I often sound like her when I talk to my daughter who is a successful young adult.

“I’m the parent” experiences seem to repeat themselves in each generation.

I learned this few years ago. I called my mother to share a frustrating experience I had with my daughter. I talked on and on for some time, and my mother listened, occasionally making a comment. Finally I ended by asking, “Tell me Mom, does this ever end?”

My mom, on the other end of the telephone did not miss a beat. “When you stop doing it with me,” she said, “I’ll let you know.”

One thought on “Communication: We are Always Children in Our Parents’ Eyes

  1. I have these “mother-daughter” moments frequently with my mom (who will be 86 in May) and my daughter (who was 33 in January). I love being able to pick up the phone and call my mom, just to check on her, to share a special moment or to “moo” about something. I know I will miss that. I attended a memorial service a number of years ago for the mother of a college classmate. During her eulogy of her mother, my friend commented on the fact that she and her mother spoke every day on the phone and how she missed that. Now, many years later, I am connected to my mom not only by telephone, but by email and yes, even on Facebook!


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.