Eleanor Clift Writes About Hospice
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Journalist Eleanor Clift has written a superb article in the August 2011 publication Health Affairs about the hospice experience of her husband, journalist Tony Brazaitis, in the months before he died of cancer. It’s freely available and filled with astute observations and information — a good read for anyone, but especially for families who may have to consider hospice in the near future.
In Hospice and the ‘End Game,‘ Clift describes what she calls “the different philosophy of care” of hospice programs and how they focus on quality at the end of life. She writes:
They say hospice is the best medical care that no one wants because it signals the end of life, and American culture is all about fighting until your last breath. But hospice is far more than a waiting room for death; it’s a different philosophy of care for both the patient and the family.
In our family that different philosophy ensured that we spent four high quality months with my husband’s 90-year-old mother at the end of her life.
Hospice Helps When a Parent With Dementia is Dying
Sometimes acquaintances describe how a hospice program entered the lives of an aging parent during the last week or even in the last few days of life. My husband and I are aware of just how much hospice offered to our family during the four months before his mother died. However, we have spoken with people — who were less satisfied than we were — and more often than not the family received hospice services during the last few days a parent’s life.
An article published in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society explores the use and effectiveness of hospice with nursing home residents who are dying of dementia. In the article, Does Hospice Improve the Quality of Care for Persons Dying of Dementia? (abstract), Dr. Joan Teno and colleagues explore the perceptions of bereaved family members (538) whose loved ones received hospice services in a nursing home setting at the end of their lives. The researchers interviewed family members following a death, using a cohort that they were tracking in a previous study of dementia patients and feeding tubes. This United Press International article, Hospice Helps Dying for Dementia Patients, adds a few more details.
Washington Post Article on Hospice and Palliative Care
Today’s Washington Post features an article, Progress Needed on End of Life Care, by Janice Lynch Schuster, describing the urgent need for improvements to palliative and hospice care. The article describes the problems that still exist for many patients at the end of their lives who experience unnecessary suffering and pain.
I’ve written about our family’s amazing experience with hospice, ending over a year ago when my husband’s mother died in January 2010. Here are a few As Our Parents Age posts from the past that focus on hospice and palliative care.
End-of-Life Conversations
Over at the Inside Aging Parent blog, Carol recently posted Conversations About End of Life with a link to a BlogTalk radio program interviewing author Kelsey Collins (check out Collin’s videos presentations). I have just listened to the program so I recommend checking out Carol’s post and the radio interview.
In her book Exit Strategy: Leaving this Life with Grace and Gratitude (this link to the e-book, which I am downloading) Collins, a hospice chaplain, talks about how she helps parents and their family caregivers find ways to approach end-of-life topics.
Check out the “Be the Noodle” Review
While I was intently focused on my Green House posts last week, Inside Aging Parent Care posted a terrific review of Be The
Noodle by Lois Kelly.
What I love about this book is the noodle support metaphor. When the summer waters are rough in my beloved St. Lawrence River, a noodle is just the ticket for extra support on a hot day when one of us — not just aging parents — wants to stay in the water for a long time. A noodle is strong and secure, and it keeps a person from tiring or sinking, functioning just like a caregiver does when a family member is seriously ill.
I have yet to read Kelly’s entire book — I picked it up at a friend’s house — but the hospice experience described in the book is similar to our experience during the last months of end of my mother-in-law’s life. Suffice it to say, hospice was amazing, and so it this book.
End of Life Decisions
My post, Aging Parents: Research on End-of-Life Decisions, discussed the University of Michigan study that evaluated how a person’s end-of-life decisions are taken into consideration by hospitals and medical personnel. Pauline Chen, MD, in her regular New York Times column, also wrote about this research, sharing a personal story about her father-in-law’s death. The article appeared in the New York Times on April 15, 2010.
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— and the next day we became what we laughingly call “real grown-ups,” helping first one, then two, and increasingly all three of our parents. It’s time to give back, and we do so willingly and happily. However the process is not easy, and it is not free from anxiety and tension. Check out the As Our Parents Age About page to learn more about the mission of this blog.
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